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The three types are:
1. Men who are sure they want to get married* one day. It's just a matter of finding the right person.
2. Men who are sure they never want to get married. Not ever.
3. Men who just aren't sure what they want.
Assuming you are a person who would like to one day get married...
Then it just wouldn't make sense to date someone who's sure they never want to get married. Right? It would be like dating someone who's not into women. You are never ever going to change them, though you might die trying.
If you are going to date someone in pool #3, proceed with great caution. Be aware of your own expectations. Is your relationship just going to be so wonderful that it will inspire them to get clarity and become a commitment person just so they don't lose you? That does sometimes happen, but not always. The worst, worst, worst thing, which too many wonderful women have gone through, is to find out after a year or two that the guy they've gotten deeply involved with is hanging onto their membership in pool #3, and shows no signs of moving.
It seems to me that the easiest, most enjoyable path would be to date within pool #1. It doesn't mean that you're going to be interested in everyone in that pool, and there may still be relationships that don't work out for other reasons. But knowing that you both have the same objective is a good starting point. At least those guys want what you want, so that when you *do* connect, you'll have a solid basis for exploring a relationship.
The problem is, sometimes women don't know which group their guy belongs to. Even after dating more than a year.
What do you think? How would you figure out which pool a guy swims in?
* If it works better for you, you could interchange the words "get married" with "make a life commitment"
